I don't watch Biggest Loser, but after this week's finale it wasn't necessary to have watched the program to get the gist of what went down. So, Rachel Fredrickson of Stillwater, MN won. She won because she had lost the most weight, hence the name of the show. Good for her, right?
Well, maybe not.
Since the show aired, social media sites, blogs and magazine websites have been lit up with discussions about her low weight and how thin she looks.
The comments may be well-meaning, but the words aren't those of support and encouragement.
Rachel is not an object; she is not a character; she is not a public figure. Yes, she put herself out there when she joined the show; a show that exposes and exploits the participants, BUT all of the words about her being unhealthy, looking gaunt, not looking good, claiming she must have an eating disorder, etc. are callous and hard and pointy.
Words are like arrows, piercing the skin. If Rachel has a health concern, these words will not help her, they will only compound the eating issues. If Rachel does not have any health concerns with her eating and current weight, these words take away from her victory and still sting.
We talk about others to make us feel better about ourselves. Perhaps we aren't happy with our own weights or we are unhappy with the directions our lives have taken or we are just bored. And perhaps some are really concerned, but launching into long-winded online tirades do not express concern and do not aid Rachel in any way.
Rachel is a person. Just as you and I are.
Put yourself in Rachel's shoes. How would you feel after dropping over a hundred pounds on national television, winning the Biggest Loser and then watching the public tear her down?
If you are truly concerned, pray for her and keep your mouth shut.
Clearly, Rachel is strong having done what most of us don't do; going on national TV, working hard to lose a lot of weight in front of an audience and opening up, leaving herself vulnerable.
But before you open your mouth to say something or lift your finger to tap out a mouthy comment online, think how it would feel if you read those words and they were directed at you. Over and out…